Finger On The Pulse

Patience

2012-01-30T06:09:00.009+08:00

A good friend of mine gave me a pep-talk yesterday about the virtue of patience and how perhaps I should embrace it in some areas of my life. I would be the first to admit that being patient is not one of my better traits, particularly on the work front and some aspects of my personal life.

My instincts always tell me to move fast, be decisive, take action. Procrastination is not something I take kindly to. Admittedly, impatience has cost me somewhat at times in recent years past. As such, learning to be a bit more patient is perhaps an effort I have to make. Knowing that different individuals have a different pace, different mindset is well and good, being able to compromise and have a better tolerance level is something that I will have to become better skilled at.

The aim really of this endeavour is to become more laid back and less stressed, have a more balanced perspective. It is a challenge somewhat but what's life without some challenges to improve ourselves? One step at a time I suppose is a mantra I should adopt. And as my good friend would say, let the good chi flow with a positive attitude. Wish me luck.

Photo shot in Hong Kong.

Chinese New Year 2012

2012-01-26T16:43:00.005+08:00

Family gatherings, big meals, that's Chinese New Year for me, year in, year out. Not that I don't enjoy it. In fact, I look forward to the get-togethers and the huge variety of food served. We eat well, have many laughs over the most frivolous of things. Merriment during this festive season.

A large extended family adds to the festivity. The fact that we all get along for the most part is the perfect catalyst for stimulating conversations and exchanges, vital ingredients for a good time. We chat, we joke, we poke fun at one another.

It's what Chinese New Year is supposed to be. A cheerful and joyful start to the year. Now that family obligations have been fulfilled and dinners over the next few nights are with friends, there is bound to be much laughter and enjoyment to come.

With some of my cousins and two little nephews.

Chinese New Year Eve

2012-01-25T22:10:00.005+08:00

Chinese New Year Eve is all about the reunion dinner. Many travel far and wide to head home for this time of communion with family. It is the time of year where relationships are renewed, bonds strengthened. The significance of the reunion dinner has been inculcated in me since childhood and I've never missed one all my life.

My grandparents, when they were alive, would cook up a storm. Nowadays, we observe a 'pot luck' tradition. Still, the food is good, all eight dishes and charcoal-boiled soup.

In fact, I got to attend two reunion dinners this year. One, for my mother's side of the family on Saturday evening, the other for my paternal extended family on Sunday night, the former at a Chinese restaurant, the latter a home cooked meal. The best of both worlds really. My Mum, sister, aunts, uncles, cousins, the important people in my life.

Photo of dishes served at the reunion dinner for my Dad's side of the family on Sunday evening.

Friends In Hong Kong

2012-01-18T22:05:00.006+08:00

A holiday is made extra meaningful when opportunities to meet up with friends whom we haven't seen in a while arise. I had made plans to see Felix, Elsie, Anna and Arjuna prior to my trip to Hong Kong, but catching up with Phoebe was a pleasant surprise. Felix, friends since my working stint in Leysin; Elsie, friends from the time we were at Flinders; Anna, my business partner at That Special Occasion and her hubby Arjuna; Phoebe, friends from hotel school at Le Bouveret.

I'd have to thank Facebook for facilitating the catching up. Just a couple of messages and I had set up a dinner with Felix, supper with Elsie, lunch with Anna and Arjuna. And when I arrived in Hong Kong and posted that I was enjoying the cold weather, Phoebe's other half and my good friend Danny who is based in Dalian, quickly commented that she was back in Hong Kong and that I should call. As luck would have it, we managed to meet the day before she flew back to Dalian.

Good friends are few and far between and I always cherish the catch up sessions, no matter how much trouble we have to go through to meet, no matter how much advance notice we need to give one another, no matter how fleeting or lengthy the meeting. More so when we live so far apart. We've shared many wonderful memories during our time as students, matured together as we entered adulthood, have been part of milestones in each other's lives. Such bonds that have been nurtured over the years enable us to be lifelong friends, and seeing each other whilst on holiday is always an added bonus.

Here I am with Phoebe. I met up with her the couple hours I had between my cousin's wedding ceremony and banquet.

Ming And Roy's Wedding Banquet

2012-01-15T06:19:00.005+08:00

Wedding banquets in Hong Kong start really early! We were told that guests would start arriving by 6pm and we duly did so too. Mahjong games were underway, and the couple were on stage posing for photos with family and guests alike. Throughout the photo session, Ming and Roy would change into different outfits, ensuring that a variety of 'looks' were attained. This photo shows the couple right after the cake cutting. Ming and Roy did the cake cutting twice, a real cake during the pre-dinner photo session which was then served to guests who had arrived early, and a ceremonial one during the dinner itself.

Three hours of photos and serving tea to relatives who did not make it to the morning ceremony later, dinner was served at nine amidst an enthusiastic celebratory atmosphere. A change of outfits, a spectacular walk-in with confetti, various slide shows, more changes of outfits, a performance by a magician, the groom singing, a toast on stage, table to table toasts with an entourage of almost fifty, and more photos.

It was an eye opening and enjoyable experience.

Photo from left of the parents of the groom Uncle Tung Sang and Auntie Meng, Mum, Auntie Mary, Ming, Roy, Uncle Chee Peng and Auntie Anne during the wedding banquet.

Group Travel

2012-01-12T16:02:00.007+08:00

Traveling in a group requires patience and compro-mise. When in Hong Kong to attend my cousin Roy's wedding recently, we were a group of eight who traveled from Kuala Lumpur. With different interests, eating habits and so forth, a bit of give and take was necessary to ensure that we all had a good time.

Being flexible with the itinerary and activities planned, both for the wedding and for leisure, meant that we could make any necessary adjustments when called for. 'Chill and go with the flow' was a constant reminder.

Most importantly, we achieved our aim of being part of Roy and Ming's celebration. Add to that some shopping, much food and catching up with friends and a pleasant trip it was indeed.

Photo of Suk Harn, Mum and I on the morning of Ming and Roy's wedding in Ping Shan, New Territories, Hong Kong.

Wedding Of Ming And Roy

2012-01-10T21:00:00.005+08:00

I've just returned from Hong Kong where I was privileged to have been invited to my cousin Roy's wedding. The wedding was indeed a spectacular affair, from the traditional Chinese ceremony and the Western-style exchange of vows in the morning in their home village of Ping Shan in the New Territories, to the banquet in the evening right in the heart of Kowloon, it was a feast for the senses.

Ming, the romantic that she is, dazzled in seven outfits - a Chinese 'Kua', three wedding gowns and three evening gowns. The bridal gown I designed as a wedding gift, as seen in this photo, was worn for the cake cutting and photos of the bridal entourage. Roy was definitely not upstaged in the attire department. An all white ensemble through to an all black outfit with strategic changes in bow-ties and shoes ensured that he kept up with his new wife. I'd have to say that I witnessed for the first time, a groom in a pair of white Nikes embellished with hundreds of crystals, trendy indeed!

What I will remember most about the wedding is the celebratory atmosphere. They certainly know how to party. The exuberance of all - the couple, family, relatives, guests - made for a truly happy and memorable occasion. Congratulations again Ming and Roy! And have a fantastic honeymoon at the Six Senses in the Maldives!

Photo of the bridal party, shot during the wedding banquet in Kowloon, Hong Kong.

Auntie Janet

2012-01-02T20:03:00.005+08:00

This past Christmas Day was extra meaningful. I, together with some of my extended family, a troupe of ten we were, made a day trip to Singapore to see Auntie Janet. Despite her illness, she was alert and we spent a couple hours of quality time together. The episode shed some light on a fact that we sometimes overlook, that family ties are paramount, whether in good times or bad.

Auntie Janet passed away today. I am comforted that we had the opportunity to say our personal goodbyes last Sunday. Rest in peace Auntie Janet.

For all of us who remain, in particular Uncle Mike, Aaron, Moses and their families, may we also find peace in our hearts.

A request from Auntie Janet to celebrate her life by donning colours.

New Year's Day

2012-01-01T06:18:00.005+08:00

2012 has arrived! Here's to new beginnings, new aspirations, new achieve-ments, new expe-riences.

This year, I shall maintain a positive outlook in all aspects of life. Keep fit and stay healthy. Work on my level of patience. Spend more time with family and friends. Travel the world. Love. Embrace new experiences that life offers.

A new year always gives me a shot in the arm in terms of optimism. I shall keep the faith, believe in fate, yet plot my own destiny. Have a fantastic and fabulous year everyone. Happy New Year!

Photo shot at Echo Beach in Canggu, Bali, Indonesia.

New Year's Eve

2011-12-31T19:59:00.008+08:00

2011 has come and gone and I am in a reflective mood this New Year's Eve. Instead of braving the crowds downtown, I am spending the evening at home, after having just returned from a Japanese dinner with my Mum and sis. I suppose I can consider last night's dinner at Bunny and Nabil's as the party to end the year, with much merriment and good friends. Tonight is more about spending quality time with my family.

2011 has been good to me. I've been relatively successful on the workfront. There were some hits and misses, but I can't complain when I look at the bigger scheme of things. There is always room for improvement and that's what I shall be aspiring to do next year. This year has also been good to me travel-wise. Seven holidays in all - Chinese New Year trip with my family to Koh Samui, company trip to Hatyai, celebrating Mum's birthday in Seoul, participating in my first triathlon relay with good friends and cousins in Bali, surprised my cousin Siew Yoong on her 40th birthday in Bangkok, returning to the family village in China, trekking in Nepal with my cousin Lynette to mark her milestone birthday. I hope to top that in 2012, or at the very least equal it.

Most of my resolutions and aspirations for the year have been met. A few, I did not attain. These are the ones to work harder towards from tomorrow onwards. Yes, there are still goals to achieve, dreams to realise. As the curtain comes down on 2011, I am grateful for the good times spent with family, friends and industry colleagues. I am thankful for good health. I appreciate the experiences life has accorded me. Here's to an even better year in 2012.

Turning prayer wheels to cast away sufferings, at Boudhanath in Nepal.

Christmas Eve

2011-12-27T22:18:00.006+08:00

We haven't hosted a Christmas Eve party for a number of years now, more than ten years according to my Mum. So she gave notice earlier this year and last Saturday, forty of my extended family gathered at our home for a Christmas Eve supper.

I told Mum not to cook, eventhough she is capable of singlehandedly catering to a party of sixty. Despite her initial resistance to the idea, she caved and agreed to keeping things simple. We ordered nasi lemak from Gerai Kak Ya in SS2; some of my aunts brought keropok, cakes, jelly and rambutans. Simple fare. More importantly, camaraderie among the extended family.

We caught up on the latest news, planned for holidays next year, exchanged gifts, sang carols. We had lots of laughs. We had fun. We enjoyed each other's company.

Photo of Mum and my cousin Honn Ken leading the caroling session.

Winter Solstice Festival

2011-12-23T22:52:00.011+08:00

My family, both immediate and extended, celebrates the Winter Solstice Festival 'Kor Tung' every year. Since we were kids, we were told by our grandparents that 'Kor Tung is bigger than Chinese New Year', in terms of significance that is. So we gather, have a good meal and enjoy each other's company.

This year, like in years past, we gathered at the family home. When my grandparents were still around, they would cook up a storm, up to ten dishes no less. Since their passing, 'pot luck' has been the norm, with still a pretty good variety of dishes to savour.

Cultural traditions are very important in my family. These are the occasions where we can strengthen and maintain our family ties. We plan to keep this up.

Photo of dishes served last night.

Annual Christmas Party

2011-12-22T23:17:00.005+08:00

My friends Ken Bin and Cordelia host a Christmas party every year, some years at their home, more recently at their cafe The Olive Tree in Petaling Jaya. I always enjoy this annual ritual. I get to re-connect with their extended family and also celebrate the festivities with our friends Yean Mun and David who are also perenially on the guest list.

This year was no different and we gathered at The Olive Tree on Tuesday evening. I was a tad late as I had a staff birthday dinner to attend first but still had a wonderful time nevertheless. It is always meaningful to enjoy the Christmas season amongst good friends. My friendships with Ken Bin and David began in 1988 at Immanuel College, with Cordelia and Yean Mun in 1989 at The Flinders University Of South Australia. That's more than two decades and whilst our busy schedules have resulted in us meeting less frequently, we still make the effort for birthdays, Christmas and Chinese New Year.

Among all of us, Cordelia does best when it comes to wrapping gifts and decorating the home. I always look forward to Christmas parties at her home. Great food enhanced by beautiful table settings, thematic decor creating a festive ambience. A smaller, more intimate crowd. Next year perhaps.

Photo of me, Mei Lin, Yean Mun, Cordelia, David and Ken Bin at The Olive Tree in Petaling Jaya.

Pre-Christmas Visit To Veralyne's

2011-12-21T23:25:00.008+08:00

Veralyne and I go back a long way. I first met Veralyne when she was a client of mine at That Special Occasion. We designed a prom dress for her when she was in college years ago; which college I forget. When she later told me that she'd like to study fashion, I suggested a school which perhaps she should consider. Upon graduation, I recommended her to a wedding industry colleague who happened to be looking for a designer for his studio at that time. Now years down the road, she is the proud owner of Estudio de Veralyne.

Here's a photo of the both of us at her studio which I visited yesterday for a pre-Christmas lunch. She has certainly made an effort to infuse some festive spirit into her studio - decor, carols, the whole works really, and most importantly presents!

It is always exciting to witness new entrepreneurial endeavours take off, more so when it is a friend's fledgling business venture. We are now friendly competitors, sometimes sharing clients even. Thanks for lunch Veralyne and here's to a great 2012!

Photo of Veralyne and I at her studio.

Christmas Greetings

2011-12-19T21:54:00.006+08:00

My festive greetings to my family, friends and industry colleagues this year ...

As Christmas draws near and the New Year beckons, I wish you many journeys in the year ahead!

Smooth sailing careers ...

Vacations every now and then ...

Reunions with loved ones ...

Weekend jaunts to rejuvenate ...

Trips of a lifetime ...

Voyages across continents ...

Here's also to a year of good health, great fortune and much happiness.

Photo of Lake Phewa in Pokhara, Nepal.

Christmas Dinner

2011-12-15T20:41:00.007+08:00

I was privileged to be invited by The Westin Kuala Lumpur last evening for a dinner celebrating the festive season. With their new Director of Kitchens, Garth Welsh at the helm, the hotel's chefs created a spectacular menu that had the ten of us spellbound.

The evening started with canapes and wine at the Chairman Suite, after which we headed to EEST, Qba and Qba Wine Lounge. Here's what we enjoyed after the canapes ........

FOUR SEASON'S BITES FROM EEST

EEST Wok-fried Szechuan Spiced Free Range Chicken in Flower Bun

Hong Kong Crispy Fried Imperial 'Har Kok'

Signature Prawn and Hand Picked Chicken Floss, Wasabi Lotion

Secret Oven Baked Cheese and Fresh Stone Crab Roe Roulade

Chardonnay Long Neck Western Cape, 2010 and Merlot Concha Y Toro Central Valley, 2009

SHORT HORN TASTING PLATE FROM QBA

Master Kobe Oyster Blade, Mushroom Confit

Clare Valley Rib Eye, Salsa Roja

Australian Wagyu Eye Fillet, Roast Sweet Onion, Cabrales Blue Cheese Sauce

Mango and Avocado Salad, Lavender Vinaigrette, Shaved Chocolate

Malbec Terrazas Mendoza, 2009

DESSERT BITES AND CHEESE AT QBA WINE LOUNGE

Cherry Cheese Cake

Chocolate Truffle

Passion Fruit and Meringue Tartlets

Pistachio and Almond Florentine

Pink Macaron

Cheese Selection

Macabeo Moscatel Mesta Menudo, 2009

A great evening with good company and fabulous food indeed.

Photo of the Christmas Tree at The Westin Kuala Lumpur.

Regrets?

2011-12-09T23:00:00.005+08:00

A good friend of mine recently asked me if I had any regrets. My instinctive response was no. That is because I don't believe in regrets. Sure I've had my fair share of bad experiences, and an even greater share of mistakes. I re-visit these not so fond memories from time to time. They are a part of my past which I cannot change.

And because they are in the past, I seldom ask 'what if'. What if I had taken another route. What if I had been more patient. What if I had played another card. There is really no point in dwelling on what might have been if the circumstances were different. Instead, I keep on looking toward the future. I keep the faith in my aspirations. I hold on to hope. I search for better experiences.

To my good friend who has been down in the dumps of late, I would say 'when the dawn breaks, a new day beckons'. It is up to us to make it a good day. It is our chance to seize the opportunity to make better choices in life. It is up to us to improve our lot. We ought to be thankful for what we have in our lives as there are others who are much worse off. A new day marks a new beginning. A fresh start. Every little positive step is one which will lead us to a better circumstance. Have faith my friend.

The coming of dawn at Nagarkot in Nepal.

Christmas Mood

2011-12-06T23:57:00.005+08:00

I am finally in the mood for Christmas. I've been so busy of late due to the peak wedding season that I haven't felt the Christmas spirit like in years past. Well, after attending Sheraton Imperial Kuala Lumpur's Christmas tree lighting last evening, I am truly in a festive mood. All it took was some egg nog, a few carols by the children of the Lighthouse Children Welfare Home, two servings of stuffed turkey with cranberry sauce, a big, huge, beautifully decorated tree and of course good company.

In keeping with the spirit of giving, and because I can be a prolific shopper on occasion, I hit the shops after dinner this evening and did some inspired Christmas shopping. I am keeping things simple this year. Practical, affordable gifts. I am still waiting for delivery of another batch of gifts which I ordered earlier and when they arrive, I'll be ready for the gift giving. I would confess however that I am terrible at gift wrapping. Fortunately, I have help in that department.

A large extended family plus a small circle of close friends mean that my shopping list can be pretty long. Still, I find it an enjoyable and rewarding experience, although I admit to stressing out those who assist me in wrapping by sometimes leaving things to the last minute. I hope to be better prepared this year. So far, so good. I'll just have to chase for the remaining order to be delivered soon!

Photo of the choir from the Lighthouse Children Welfare Home at Sheraton Imperial Kuala Lumpur.

Cesar Ritz Colleges Alumni Gathering

2011-12-04T20:27:00.011+08:00

It is always a pleasure to meet up with fellow alumni of Cesar Ritz Colleges. The Malaysian chapter of the alumni asso-ciation, in particular those residing in Kuala Lumpur and its surroundings, get together a couple of times a year, mostly doing what Malaysians love most, over a meal. We have some drinks, enjoy a hearty dinner, share some laughs, get some updates about the colleges and reminisce about our time spent in Switzerland.

Whenever possible, we dine at an alumni member's restaurant as a measure of support. This time round, we gathered at Songket, a fine-dining establishment specialising in traditional Malay cuisine. Despite the evening downpour and traffic, more than twenty of us made it to Tony Wong's restaurant located at Jalan Yap Kwan Seng. Other than our friends, there to greet us was also Quoc Phong Huynh, Regional Manager of Cesar Ritz Colleges Switzerland. We had the pleasure of getting to know Phong's predecessor Viwan Opanukij over the past few years, and this first meeting with our new friend was a pleasant and informative encounter. Pleasant because of Phong's easygoing and personable nature, informative as we were briefed on the goings-on in Switzerland with Cesar Ritz Colleges having been acquired by SEG Swiss Education Group not too long ago. As always, we also ask of Mr Kisseleff's well being, and are happy to hear that he is now enjoying his well-deserved retirement. Our strong bonds with the school are very much a reflection of the strong bonds we have with Mr Kisseleff, nurtured over the years from our college days and his visits to Malaysia from time to time.

Over fine food and drink, we re-lived our time in Lax, Brig and Le Bouveret. Graduates of 1984 through to 2002, although varied in our experiences at Cesar Ritz Colleges, share a commonality, that is an affection for our alma mater. An affection arising from a memorable phase of our lives where we were nurtured in the hospitality trade, where we cultivated our gentlemenly and ladylike ways, where we were instilled a sense of professionalism, where we forged lifelong friendships. Alumni relations and participation require effort and commitment, and as we look forward to the next such gathering, here's hoping more will be on hand to banter the next time round.

Group photo shot at Songket in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

Equality 2

2011-12-01T22:06:00.005+08:00

Last month I did a post entitled 'Equality'. Encompassing so many aspects of our lives, our inherent aspiration is to be treated fairly, as an equal.

Everyday, we see and hear cases of discrimination, abroad and at home. A foreign worker who gets treated badly. The lack of women's rights in some countries. Suppression of democratic ideals in others. In the midst of all this, advocacy groups work to bring attention to these injustices. It is lawful to do this in some countries, unlawful in others. Some do it with class while others not so.

I came across this ad in a friend's Facebook page. The status said ... 'A short film about marriage equality. Donate to put it on TV. Sign the petition. Or just watch it'. So I watched. A beautifully created ad really. An engaging way to get the message across.

Football field in the mountains of Nepal. Equal access to football I guess.

weddingsmalaysia 2012

2011-11-27T13:53:00.013+08:00

Message from the Publisher and Editor-In-Chief of weddings-malaysia 2012 which has just recently hit leading bookstores and newsstands nationwide.

The past year has seen numerous weddings take place and we expect the same for 2012. To those recently engaged, we look forward to being your constant companion as you start putting in place plans for your wedding day.

The ideas featured in this wedding planner through imaginative photography, act as catalysts and our artistically-inclined wedding partners will be on hand to offer you advice and expertise in their respective specialisations. It is the personal service and interaction that will make the planning process a smoother one.

Complementing this publication is our portal www.weddingsmalaysia.com. Here is where you will find wedding tools to help you along, highlighting areas where attention is required and ensuring that you stick to budget. Our monthly feature stories will also provide you with new ideas whilst each vendor is only a click away via our directory listings.

Here’s wishing you an exciting journey towards tying the nuptial knot.

Explore, enjoy and be inspired …

Kris Wong

Cover of weddingsmalaysia 2012.

Shirlyn & Albert : Melaka

2011-11-23T08:10:00.009+08:00

I was in Melaka over the weekend to attend Shirlyn and Albert's wedding ceremony and dinner reception. The bride, a friend of mine in the wedding industry, a wedding planner by profession, had put in a lot of thought into the preparations and things went well. The weather held up, the entourage from both the bride's and groom's camps were sporting in spirit, the attention to detail was evident. I had a good time.

Sometimes when an industry practitioner ties-the-knot, he or she may find it difficult to relinquish the role of wedding professional on the big day. Some of us jokingly reminded Shirlyn that she was the bride and not a wedding planner on this special day of hers. Let your team execute your plans we told her. That she did, well almost! Her exclamation 'Where is the technician?' was classic and drew laughs from many of us.

Being in the bride's entourage and having been privy to the challenges planned for the groom when he came to get his bride, I would admit to giving a few tips to Albert on the side, just one or two, and it was hilarious seeing how all of us joined in the merriment of the occasion. So congratulations again Shirlyn and Albert. Wishing you both every happiness. And by the way, I had way too much candy at the candy bar during the banquet!

Shirlyn and Albert at A Famosa Resort in Melaka, Malaysia.

Health

2011-11-20T17:21:00.005+08:00

I try my best to pay attention to my health. As my family has a history of non-commu-nicable illness such as cancer, diabetes and high blood pressure, I make it a point to lead as healthy a lifestyle as I can. I swim at least thrice a week, gym a bit too.

I have my vices though. I love eating out, be it at nice restaurants, mamak stalls or fast food chains. And I don't restrict myself to what I eat. I recognise that in many instances, what tastes the best may not necessarily be the most healthy. Now that my cholesterol level is borderline, I am attempting to cut back on some of my indulgences, especially the oily, fried stuff. I also used to love Coke which I have refrained from for a number of years. I still love my teh tarik, original, nothing doing with kurang manis!

I do twice-yearly check-ups. A complete, major one in April and a less rigorous one six months, more or less, thereafter. I haven't been feeling hundred per cent of late. Not one to shy away from medical consultations, I've been paying visits to my family GP to see what's been brewing. Hopefully, it's nothing too serious and I am religiously taking the medication I've been prescribed. Despite being in slight discomfort, I still made my way to Melaka over the weekend for Shirlyn's and Albert's wedding ceremony and reception. Although I wish I could have indulged more food-wise, I nevertheless had a fab time.

Photo shot at Double Six Beach in Bali, Indonesia.

Shirlyn & Albert : Penang

2011-11-17T23:52:00.006+08:00

I was fortunate to be invited to Shirlyn's and Albert's wedding reception in Penang two weekends ago. Held at Chin's Stylish Chinese Cuisine, it was a cosy and intimate celebration.

Stylish setting, stylish cuisine and a stylish couple. I think I was a stylish guest too, haha! It was indeed a memorable celebration. Memorable because of the unique venue. Memorable because of the creative menu selected by the couple. Memorable because I was amongst good friends.

I made an impromptu speech. So did Debra and Tjun Hong. Leticia made a teary one. We sang a song off-the-cuff. We toasted Shirlyn and Albert. I think the bride got her wish of a celebration filled with much warmth. Coming up this weekend? The Melaka celebration! I'll be there too!!

Photo shot at Chin's Stylish Chinese Cuisine in Penang, Malaysia.

Equality

2011-11-14T08:10:00.007+08:00

For the past couple of years, much has been said on various issues in the country, with many arguing for and against a variety of thoughts. From electoral reform to how some states are being administered, from the national budget to meritocracy, from the right to protest peacefully to non-discriminatory practices in relation to gender and sexuality, from the perceived influence of Western culture in our society to the state of our unity as a people, and a whole lot more.

At the core of all these sentiments is the inherent issue of human rights and equality. Everyone wants to be heard. We have a voice and we take a stance on each particular issue. And as such, we want our opinions to matter. We want a level playing field. Fair and transparent administrations. We want to move forward, not back. We prefer to be open-minded rather than take a narrow view. We want all our countrymen and women to be treated as one.

There are many boxes to tick. Optimistic is what we should be.

Our common love of food is evident.

Pit Stop

2011-11-11T06:24:00.007+08:00

On the way up to Penang last weekend, we made a pit stop in Ipoh for brunch. A laid-back itinerary is always a boon as it allows us to take a detour, a detour with the aim of sampling as much a variety of food as possible.

The trip to Penang, whilst primarily to attend Shirlyn's and Albert's reception up North, was also very much a food trip. Here's a photo of Tjun Hong and I enjoying Tau Foo Fah. I forget the name of the stall but apparently it is rather famous in Ipoh. Notice how we also took away bottles of Soya Bean Milk, for me a much better option compared to bottled water.

Good food and drink shared amongst good friends. Certainly an important part of any journey.

Photo shot by Leticia in Ipoh, Malaysia.

Click When Travel

2011-11-07T20:24:00.005+08:00

I went on a trip over the long weekend with my friends Leticia, Tjun Hong and Debra, a trip to attend our friend Shirlyn's wedding. One thing I have learnt from my travels is that when traveling with a group, it is important that you click with your travel companions.

The four of us have traveled together on a number of occasions and we know our respective habits and idiosyncrasies sufficiently well in order not to piss each other off. We always enjoy good food and the great company. We share similar interests and are always in the lookout for a good massage. We are comfortable enough to banter without hesitation, on almost any topic.

Such trips are relaxing and stress-busting. Leticia plans the itinerary, detailed to a 'T', and the rest of us just tag along. What's there not to enjoy?

Photo of the four of us having dinner at Lone Pine Hotel in Penang, Malaysia.

Trend

2011-11-03T19:46:00.005+08:00

You know a trend is taking shape when one gets frequent requests for wedding attire in black. It takes a confident and fashion forward Asian bride to consider this option.

Of late, we have been getting such requests at That Special Occasion. Here is a photo of my client Ee Leng, who recently donned this creation for her pre-wedding shoot in Australia as well as during the wedding banquet here in Kuala Lumpur. Made of organza and duchesse satin, this pleated and ruffled gown certainly made a statement.

The good thing about made-to-measure? We get to collaborate with the bride to come up with a gown that truly reflects her tastes and stylistic leanings.

Photo courtesy of Jenny Sun Photography.

The Hiplist 2011

2011-10-30T14:59:00.007+08:00

This is my message in The Hiplist 2011.

We are happy that you have purchased a copy of The Hiplist : Wedding Photographers. We believe that you will find inspiration from the many photos in this, our 5th issue, and hopefully the photographer who will document this milestone in your lives.

Complementing the photographers are gown designers, makeup artists and floral designers, components that are a must in any wedding. Pair them with accessories, eco-venues that are ideal for pre-wedding shoots and intimate wedding ceremonies as well as photobooks that will be keepsakes, and you will be well on your way to attaining that dream wedding of yours.

Explore, enjoy and be inspired .............

Cover of The Hiplist 2011.

Goal

2011-10-27T22:45:00.007+08:00

I always need something to look forward to. Be it a celebration, a holiday, a sporting event or just a casual dinner with friends. I like the anticipation. Come May 2012, I hope to be participating in the Singapore triathlon. My wedding industry and RTM colleagues, friends, cousins and I have managed to put together four relay teams for the event and we plan to register soon. Hopefully we're not too late and there are still spots left for us.

I do the swim leg and the Bali triathlon last June was my first foray into swimming in the sea. I enjoyed the camaradie with my teammates and fellow competitors, that is after I got over the initial apprehension about swimming in Jimbaran Bay! Since then, I've continued swimming regularly just to keep in shape. Now that we have plans for the next race, I've stepped up a gear in terms of training. I need to get my team off to a good start. In Bali, I raced with Richard and Lee Kuen. This time round, my partners will be Bunny and Lee Kuen. Our other three teams would comprise Chin Lai, Kok Ang and Ai Ling, Siew Yoong, Nigel and Katherine, as well as San, either Richard or Nabil and Soorya. We just need to sort out the biker for the last team and we'll be ready to register.

An event such as this provides me with a goal to work towards. It keeps me disciplined in terms of exercise. It keeps me motivated and energised. When I am doing laps in the pool and boredom starts to creep in, I think of the transition to my teammate for the bike leg and how well I need to start off the race. My friend Ray who does the half-ironman tells me that the sea in Changi is choppy. That's certainly another challenge to conquer.

Photo of Richard, Eileen, Lee Kuen and I after racing the Bali Triathlon.

Effort

2011-10-24T21:37:00.006+08:00

Nothing good comes easy. To see the view, a better view that is, one must climb when in Nepal. And despite the fact that I am not much of a trekker, ascend I did, 4 hours on the first day, 6 hours on the second, before 5 hours of descent on the third. My cousin Lynette is much more well trained and she had little trouble with most of the trek. I struggled at times, well most of the time, but still managed to complete the 44km, 3-day trek.

Although we only reached an altitude of 2800m, the views were already stunning. Every time I stopped to admire the landscape, I was awed, and slightly inspired to continue on. Thin air, legs giving way, a heavy backpack as we had no porter, only a guide, it was physically, probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I am happy to have met the challenge.

Will I do it again? Or perhaps take on a longer, more arduos trek, with the promise of even more breathtaking scenery? Ask me again in a year. Never say never is what I've learnt. A friend of mine can certainly attest to that.

Photo of Lynette and I on the second day of our trek, from Choukibhanjyang to Chisapani in Nepal.

Serenity

2011-10-19T22:30:00.006+08:00

The main section of Lake Phewa in Pokhara is often abuzz with activity. Tourists on row boats. Street kids performing hoping to earn some money. Locals having a BBQ on its shores. All this activity against the backdrop of hills and mountains, with the sun reflecting off the water.

I much prefer the serenity at this far end. This section of the lake is just across the road from the hotel where we stayed. In fact, this is the part that we first set eyes on when we arrived in Pokhara. Calm, peaceful and serene, I took a moment to take in the panoramic view.

This is why I travel. For moments like this. A bit of solitude in such beautiful surroundings, admiring the work of Mother Nature. A prayer of thanks was certainly very apt.

Photo shot at Lake Phewa in Pokhara, Nepal.

Village Life

2011-10-16T22:21:00.007+08:00

When in Nepal, I had a chance to visit two villages and stay in another two. The first two were in the Kathmandu Valley - Bungamati and Khokona. We toured both these Newari villages one afternoon with our guide Prem and had a chance to witness the rural Nepali way of life. The latter - Choukibhanjyang and Chisapani - were two stops during our three-day trek. We stayed a night each at these mountain villages, a truly authentic and eye-opening experience indeed.

Rural life in Nepal has made me more appreciative of the lifestyle I lead. Whilst I always try to be grateful of the comforts I enjoy, first hand experience of a more rural nature makes one even more acutely aware of how lucky some of us are. The mod-cons we so often take for granted are luxuries that are beyond the means of many a Nepali.

We complain of traffic during the balik kampung rush. Some of the Nepalis have to walk for days to get home for festive celebrations. Just one of the many comparisons that came to mind during my recent holiday.

Photo of women having a chat in Khokona, Nepal.

Breakfast With A View

2011-10-11T23:00:00.004+08:00

Breakfast always tastes better when there is fresh air and a beautiful view. Cool, crisp morning air, lush greenery, a hint of mist over Lake Phewa, the mountain range partly hidden by clouds, the sun peeking through.

Here we are enjoying breakfast in Pokhara, Lynette and I with our guide Ram and driver Raju. We had risen early, 4am to be exact, and had experienced sunrise over the Annapurna range and valley below, from our viewing point at Sarangkort, not far from Pokhara. A leisurely breakfast to satisfy our hunger pangs and an opportunity to reflect on the spectacular views Mother Nature had to offer earlier in the morning.

What a wonderful way to start a day.

Photo shot at Fewa Paradise Restaurant & Bar in Pokhara, Nepal.

Prayer In Nepal

2011-10-08T20:54:00.004+08:00

I always make it a point to pray when on holiday. For the opportunity to visit. For my family and friends. For business. For my personal life. For health, good fortune, love and happiness. To express gratitude for the good things in my life.

This I did at Swayambhunath and Boudhanath, two Buddhist stupas that are part of seven monuments in the Kathmandu Valley that together form one of two World Cultural Heritage Sites in Nepal. One feels spiritually uplifted at these places of worship, sharing a common bond with the throngs of pilgrims who have come from near and far. We may speak in different tongues, but prayer is a universal language.

My visits to Swayambhunath and Boudhanath have given me greater faith, stronger belief, that all will be well.

Photo of Boudhanath in Kathmandu, Nepal.

Nepal

2011-10-05T22:50:00.004+08:00

Today is my cousin Lynette's birthday. It is a milestone in her life and to celebrate, she invited me along on a trip to Nepal from 24 September to 3 October, that's 10 days in a country that was not high on my travel list.

The planning started last year. Actually, all the planning was done by Lynette. I told her I'd just tag along. I came away from the trip with a sense of wonder - wonder because of the breathtaking landscapes and beautiful architecture, wonder because of the artistic creations that satisfied my retail cravings, wonder because of the inner resolve I displayed to complete a 3-day, 44km trek up to an altitude of 2800m.

Nepal brought out the best in me - having a go at completing the trek, physically the most difficult thing I've ever done. It also brought out the worst in me - swearing almost all the way, particularly during steep ascents. Most importantly, it made me appreciate what I have in my life, what we have in our country. The Nepalese are a resilient people, yet they have so far to go in terms of opportunities in life, infrastructure, social development, you get what I mean. I have so much to be thankful for. So, I hope to complain less, appreciate more. I come back stronger in spirit, more resilient in faith.

Photo of the Annapurna range and valley, shot from Sarangkort in Pokhara, Nepal.

HK Family

2011-09-22T22:52:00.004+08:00

A visit to Hong Kong would not be complete without a get-together with my extended family - a grandaunt, uncles, aunts and cousins from my father's side of the family. Whilst some of us keep in regular touch via Facebook, it is always more meaningful when we meet in person.

We had dinner in the vicinity of Kowloon Bay when I was visiting last month. I forget the name of the restaurant, although I've been twice, but the food is sumptuous. Good food and even better company, that's a great combination.

My relatives in Hong Kong are generous, to the extent that my sister and I had an extra box to check-in; 17kgs worth of mooncakes, Chinese sausages, XO sauce and tidbits from Ichi-Ban. I am embarrassed to say I only brought them pre-packed ingredients for Chicken Rendang from Raju's. Still, it's a novelty considering they enjoyed the roti, curries and condiments at Raju's the last time they were in town. I am going to have to pack more come January next year.

Photo shot in a restaurant in Kowloon Bay, Hong Kong.

Queue

2011-09-20T23:07:00.005+08:00

OK, patience is not one of my virtues. Nevertheless, I got up early, headed to Mongkok via Yau Ma Tei MTR, and was first in line at Tim Ho Wan at 8.40am. Yes, I, together with my sister Suk Harn and cousins Honn Ken, Ming Ken and Ai Peng, were first in the queue, which meant that we would be in the first seating when business commenced at 10am. By 9am, the line was thirty deep, the approximate number of covers available in the restaurant.

I first read of Tim Ho Wan, a one Michelin-star restaurant in a travel mag, probably either Travel & Leisure South East Asia or Destinasian and since then had made up my mind to brave the crowds. This aspiration did waver slightly as I had contemplated heading to Tim Ho Wan's branch outlet in Shum Sui Po, apparently larger, with more seating and much shorter waiting time. Suffice to say I was vetoed by my cousins, and so to the original we trekked. The verdict? The wait was well worth it. A tiny, cosy restaurant, simple seating, all attention on the dim sum. The five of us shared sixteen plates of gastronomic creations, some familiar, others a new experience. An hour and twenty minutes' wait, an hour of great dim sum at an affordable price. What's there not to love?

My cousins and friends in Hong Kong would you believe, have never been to Tim Ho Wan. They know of it but have never tried the dim sum, largely due to the long lines. In fact, I have a friend who stays on the same street. She tells me that the daily lines are a deterrent. I suppose this is where the adage 'the early bird catches the worm' rings true. Nothing good comes easy I guess. I am happy to have made the effort.

Photo of baked Char Siew Pau, crusty on the top, flaky in the middle, moist in the centre.

Shopping

2011-09-17T20:55:00.007+08:00

I seldom shop when home. Maybe it's because I am so busy all the time. But come holiday, especially if I am visiting a destination that is big in shopping, I do pretty well. Places that I've been to this year that fall into this category would be Seoul, Bangkok and most recently Hong Kong. There's a retail vibe in each of these cities and one can easily get into the groove of hitting the shops.

One principle that I always adhere to when on vacation is to enjoy. Sure, I have a budget which I try to stick to when it comes to shopping, but by and large, I buy whatever that catches my fancy, provided it doesn't burn too big a hole in my pocket. For me, retail therapy is at its best when on holiday.

This time next week, I'll be in Nepal. Ain't sure if there'll be much shopping available but am sure as hell going to try!

Photo shot in Hong Kong.

Bike Ride

2011-09-11T07:24:00.012+08:00

My Malaysian cousins and I were treated to a bike ride around the rural countryside in our home village of Lamtang during our recent visit. Unlike our Chinese cousins, we rarely ever get on bikes here, so, it was a bit of a thrill for us pillion riders.

When in rural China, do as the rural Chinese do. No helmets! As we wound our way through hilly roads, one could not help but marvel at the beautiful landscapes, picturesque views that no camera can capture in its entirety.

After an hour's ride, a massage awaited. Certainly a good way to spend an afternoon.

Our small convoy in Lamtang, China.

Dwellings

2011-09-08T20:36:00.007+08:00

Here is a photo of the old family home of some of my relatives in Lamtang, Huizhou, China. They of course now live in slightly more modern dwellings, a contemporary-styled 3-storey building built right next to these structures of yesteryears. But up to a few years ago, these age-old cottages were home.

When touring these cottages, I feel a deeper appreciation for the lifestyle we have in Malaysia. The simple comforts we so often take for granted are a luxury to many rural folk. It is therefore comforting to see that some of these modern conveniences are now accessible to my cousins, aunts and uncles, nephews and nieces, in our little Chinese village.

As a touristic visitor, we always look out for an authentic experience. I encountered a few during my recent trip to Lamtang. And these experiences certainly offer a different perspective of life, urging us to truly appreciate the good things that we enjoy in our lives.

Photo shot in Lamtang, China.

Family Ties

2011-09-04T07:23:00.006+08:00

It is perhaps apt that my family's trip back to our village in Lamtang, Huizhou, China coincided with the impending Hari Raya holidays. Such celebrations are times when family ties come to the fore.

I think it is fair to say that nowhere else in the world are extended family relationships more evident than in Asia. Whilst we have embraced some influences from the West, our Asian upbringing has somehow ingrained in us the value of familial kinship.

Some say that distance makes the heart fonder. I would say that this is true. Although I keep in touch with my mainland Chinese cousins every now and then through sms-es and phone calls, there is still much joy and enthusiasm when we meet in person, be it during their visits to Malaysia or our recent trip back to the village. We have fun, enjoy each other's company and often remind ourselves how lucky we are to have such bonds, family bonds.

Photo shot in the family home in Lamtang, China.

Balik Kampung

2011-09-01T16:39:00.006+08:00

I've never experienced 'balik kampung', even during Chinese New Year, as most of my extended family live in Petaling Jaya where I live. Well, I am happy to say that I have finally experienced the anticipation and rush when eighteen of us, seven from my generation, headed back to Lamtang in Huizhou, China, last weekend.

My mother's side of the family in Malaysia still keeps in touch with many relatives in the village, with each clan making reciprocal visits over the past few years. I too am friendly with my cousins in China, despite my not being able to read nor write in Chinese. Fortunately, those from my generation speak Cantonese and I am able to converse in my limited Hakka to the older relations.

One thing I know for sure is that the extended family in Lamtang are extremely warm and affectionate. They go out of their way to make us comfortable. And we can sense their pride when we make the trek 'home' so to speak. When we arrived by chartered bus from Shenzhen on Saturday, they welcomed us with a 50-metre firecracker display which lasted a whopping eight and a half minutes. It was certainly a exciting way to start off the festivites of our visit!

Firecrackers at the family home in Lamtang village in Huizhou, China.

R&R

2011-08-21T06:14:00.005+08:00

The past few weeks have been crazy in terms of work. Apart from having to meet editorial deadlines for The Hiplist 2011 which is due out next month as well as weddingsmalaysia 2012 which is in pre-production, orders have also been streaming in at That Special Occasion. These are good developments and I am thankful, but it also means that I am a tad more stressed than usual.

Being on holiday thrice since June adds to the chaos of the work schedule but it's not something I should complain about. In fact, such trips help me recharge and I often come back ready to tackle the challenges on the workfront. The upcoming Hari Raya and National Day holiday is something I am looking forward to. A chance to catch up with the extended family and have some R&R.

In the meantime, I could do with a badly needed reflexology and massage. If only I could find some time!

Photo of Elemis Spa at the St. Regis in Bangkok, Thailand.

Oscar Bailey

2011-08-18T01:03:00.005+08:00

I am always on the lookout for new experiences and new challenges. Together with Veralyne, at first my client, then my industry colleague and friend, and now business partner, we are soft-launching Oscar Bailey today, 18 August 2011.

To be perfectly honest, the desire to embark on this venture came as a whim. I saw a beautiful pair of shoes by the late Alexander McQueen and I thought it'd be fun. My business partners would already know that I am not one to prepare business plans, not one to do much analysis. I just go with my gut feel and rely on my instincts most of the time. At most, I create a financial spread. For Oscar Bailey, I didn't even do that. I just called up Veralyne, invited her for a tete-a-tete over coffee one afternoon two months ago, and by the end of our chat at Backofen, we had agreed to give this endeavour a go, with me taking care of the business side of things, and her the creative and production aspects.

We are taking things one step at a time, with the premise being limited edition ready-to-wear designs. We are starting with six designs, with four sizes each, available at The Wedding Hub. And when one design sells out, we create another. Repeats are unlikely. We have also decided against custom orders. Let's face it, we are already up to our necks having to fulfill custom-made wedding gowns for our clients, and won't need the extra stress. It started just as a whim of mine and I hope it will be an enjoyable endeavour. A small albeit interesting endeavour. Fingers crossed!

Photo of one of our soft-launch designs in ivory with black trim.

Nella Fantasia

2011-08-14T08:21:00.034+08:00

I first paid attention to this song when I was watching a clip from Korea's Got Talent. Since then, it has been playing in my head over and over. An Italian song, 'Nella Fantasia' or 'In My Fantasy', composed by Ennio Morricone with lyrics by Chiara Ferrau, is a beautiful and uplifting song.

In my imagination I see a fair world

Everyone lives in peace and in honesty there
I dream of souls that are always free
Like the clouds that fly
Full of humanity in the depths of the soul

In my imagination I see a bright world
Even the night is less dark there
I dream of souls that are always free
Like clouds that fly

In my imagination there exists a warm wind
That breathes on the cities like a friend
I dream of souls that are always free
Like clouds that fly
Full of humanity in the depths of the soul

Enjoy this performance by crossover singer, Im Tae-Kyung.

Photo of a palace in Seoul, Korea.

Reconnected

2011-08-08T21:30:00.007+08:00

How time flies and how we sometimes let friendships lie dormant for years. Paul and I were school-mates in boarding school at Immanuel College in Adelaide two decades ago. Over the years, we lost touch. Facebook got us back in touch a couple of years back. And today, we reconnected in person. Paul and Karen, with three kids in tow, were in Kuala Lumpur on a 9-hour transit on their way back to Adelaide from a holiday in Phuket. A few emails plus numerous text messages later, we made arrangements to meet to catch up over a couple of hours during their layover.

It's funny how having not met for twenty years or so, friends can just reconnect so easily. I can't put a finger on it but perhaps it was because of the bonds we formed all those years ago, living, studying, socialising in a closely-knit school community. I was initially apprehensive as to whether we would have much to talk about after having not met for so long. The apprehension was unnecessary. I had a great time. Five hours is not exactly sufficient time to really catch up on twenty years' worth of news but I came away from this encounter with a sense of renewal, a renewal of a friendship. The few short hours I hope, will be a catalyst towards this renewal. Karen, who I was meeting for the first time no doubt, believes that our years in high school are the times when the strongest bonds are formed. And even after having not met for some time, those bonds can be easily re-established with friends whom we shared that phase of our lives with. There must be some truth to that.

Two fond memories come to mind. Paul a.k.a 'Father Jericho' was the one who gave me the name Kris when at Immanuel. And of course the force feeding episode where Paul force fed me Vegemite while the others held me down. Suffice to say, I have till this day not acquired the taste for Vegemite, no matter how much our friend David, an accomplice of Paul's during the force feeding, sings its praises. I hope to visit Paul, Karen and the kids in Loveday, South Australia someday. The vistas of their vineyard already has me thinking of a return trip to Adelaide and its surroundings soon.

Photo of David, Paul and I, once dorm-mates at Immanuel College in Adelaide, South Australia.

Remembering Dad

2011-08-03T23:25:00.016+08:00

'If you know someone who fought cancer and won, or fought cancer and died, or someone who is still fighting, please add this to your status for 1 hour as a mark of respect and remembrance'. This request was asked of those who are on Facebook. I did my part.

It's been 20 months since Dad passed away from complications brought on by chemotherapy. I remember the doctor visits I accompanied my father to, the chemotheraphy sessions. It is indeed an illness that affects the entire family, not just the patient. Much perseverance and a strong will are required of the patient, much patience and strength are required of the patient's support group. Sometimes circumstances turn out good, other times not. Dad's fight lasted only 5 months from diagnosis. He was in fact responding well to the drugs as the tumours were shrinking, it was the side effects of the treatment that caused him to succumb.

Time heals and we have moved on with our lives. We think of Dad often, I do almost every day. When I encounter an amusing situation, I would chuckle at what his response would have been. When the extended family gathers for a celebration, I remember his commitment to family ties. I try to have his compassion but I do not always succeed. I say hello to his friends whenever I run into them; I made it a point to have lunch with his good friend and colleague when I was in Bangkok recently. And when I feel a bit discouraged, I remember his words 'It is your life to live, live it as you deem fit.'

Here is an inspiring story.

Photo shot at Prambanan in Jogjakarta on our second last holiday together.

Game

2011-07-31T21:02:00.009+08:00

I am often game to try out new things. My cousin San, being the outdoor-type guy he is, arranged for a Segway tour for us in Bangkok last Sunday, with a little help from a Bangkok-based friend Shin.

It's a pretty cool experience once you get the hang of it. Two and a half hours flew by quickly. We took in some sights, had a bit of a race in a park and navigated quite a lot of traffic, both human and vehicle. We had a good time.

For me, a new experience is always enticing and enthralling. Whether I ultimately like it or not is not the point. The point is to have a go. So many fall into the trap of a sedentary lifestyle. Sure, I have routine in my life too but that hasn't stopped me from exploring new horizons, participating in fascinating activities. I try to live life to the fullest. I may not succeed all the time but I sure as hell try.

Photo shot in the streets of Bangkok, Thailand.

Surprise Birthday Trip

2011-07-28T17:02:00.007+08:00

I am always game for a surprise and it is pretty rewarding when the surprise comes good. My cousin Siew Yoong was celebrating a birthday and her hubby San had planned for some of us to show up in Bangkok to celebrate.

Siew Yoong and I practically grew up together during our childhood and we've remained close over the years, despite us living in different countries for the past two and a half decades or so. We were in fact competing against one another during the swim leg of the Bali Triathlon in June but there was no talk about this trip to Bangkok; I made sure that I would not be the one to let the cat out of the bag if it ever were to happen.

The long weekend in Bangkok was great. Good company, good food, group activities, some shopping, massages. I designed Siew Yoong a cocktail dress as a gift and was pleasantly surprised that it fit almost perfectly; for this I have to thank San for the size measurements he scoured from her closet. In return, I got a little surprise myself. Siew Yoong set me up for a session at Elemis Spa at The St. Regis Bangkok on the last night of our trip. Certainly a wonderful, relaxing way to end an enjoyable holiday. Thanks San for the invite and planning!

Photo shot at Erawan Tea Room in Bangkok, Thailand.

Holidays

2011-07-21T22:26:00.005+08:00

I often get asked how I manage to afford time off for regular holidays. Here's the deal. I still work while on holiday. I allocate at least 2 hours a day to answer emails, write and so forth. I am not one who likes to be deluged with work post holiday, so I would rather get some cleared while away. I am disciplined in that way.

Since beginning of June, I have been working for approximately 3 weeks followed by a week's holiday or thereabouts. Seoul done. Bali done. This cycle will run through beginning October and I am certainly looking forward to another 3 trips. The downside to all this is the intense work rate during the 3 work-weeks. Although I still have my off days, I do work half the time. I've noticed too that I am even more task-oriented and those working with me have had to roll up their sleeves and pull up their socks even more, so to speak. I am pretty sure they like the peace and quiet when I am away. They can then work on the list of tasks I leave them with peace of mind, without my constant scrutiny and demands, though I still keep in close touch via email.

Even though rather stressed at times, I ain't complaining, as I still manage to find time to swim at least 3 times a week, gym twice, read, network socially on the internet, coffee and dinner with family and friends, even a movie every now and then, plus 2 blocs of newsreading per week at RTM. Suffice to say, I have no time to waste. And there is always that upcoming holiday to look forward to. This I know for sure though, a 3-week-1-week cycle may be a tad ambitious. Well, come November, perhaps I'll have a re-think and see how a more reasonable cycle may be attained. In the meantime, it's full steam ahead.

Working in the coffee house of Ubud Inn in Bali, where I am joined by my friends Shirley and Richard.

Journeys For Two 2011

2011-07-17T06:30:00.006+08:00

Here are some of my thoughts as Publisher and Editor-In-Chief of Journeys For Two - Destination Weddings For The Stylish And Chic 2011.

It's been two years in a row that I've attended a destination wedding. Both were beach weddings and both were in one of my favourite holiday destinations, Bali. Naturally, the venue plays a big part in any wedding. However, what I've learnt from these past two weddings is that the crowd is just as important.

Excitement and anticipation are definitely in the air once the bridal party and their guests arrive at their destination of choice. An easy-going group, one with an adventurous streak and a sense of fun, all add to the merriment. They complement the exotic and serene surroundings, they somehow make the beautiful landscapes come even more alive. Most of all, these are the people who are most dear to the couple. When such a perfect combination comes together as one, we can be sure of a meaningful, loving and memorable occasion. Now, isn't that what every bride and groom hopes for?

Explore, enjoy and be inspired ........

Kris Wong

Cover of Journeys For Two 2011.

Do As The Locals Do

2011-07-11T20:00:00.005+08:00

When in Rome, do as the Romans do, so they say. When in Bali, do as the Balinese do. With this in mind, we headed to Pasar Senggol night market in Gianyar one evening to sample Babi Guling and Bakso.

Gianyar, not too far from Ubud, reputedly has some of the best Babi Guling in Bali and whilst I am not particularly a fan of pork, some of my travel friends are. I settled for Bakso at a nondescript stall and this I have to say - it is important to have a diverse travel experience. Being willing to try streetfood is often rewarded with a memorable experience.

A simple but tasty meal, good company and an authentic atmosphere, what's not to enjoy?

L to R : Our guide Putu, Richard, Eileen, yours truly, Uncle Lui and Auntie Lillian. Photo kindly shot by Shirley at Pasar Senggol in Gianyar, Bali, Indonesia.

A Bit Of Work In Bali

2011-07-10T07:35:00.010+08:00

I tend to include a little bit of work whenever I holiday in Bali. We have a number of partners in Bali with whom we jointly promote destination weddings and it is always good to catch up with them and share new ideas.

This time, we made the rounds to Kayumanis Nusa Dusa, Kupu Kupu Barong Villas & Tree Spa as well as Furama Xclusive Villas & Spa in Ubud. These properties are featured in the latest edition of Journeys For Two - Destination Weddings For The Stylish And Chic and we had the opportunity to tour their venues and chat over tea with our collaborative partners.

I don't really mind mixing business with pleasure when such pleasant opportunities arise.

Photo shot at Kayumanis Nusa Dua in Bali, Indonesia.

Canggu

2011-07-06T23:53:00.005+08:00

My friends and I always head to the same places whenever we are in Bali, so we made it a point this time round to stay a few nights at some place which we haven't visited before. So to Canggu we went.

Quiet and laid back, a little rural, but that will all change soon with the massive construction going on. Apparently the new commercial development will be ready by next year. I suppose we are lucky to have been able to experience it as it is now, rather than its more touristy incarnation in the future.

Echo Beach in Canggu is a surfers haven from what I witnessed. Great surf. Too bad I don't surf but am inclined to learn soon. I've been to Bali 8 times and have still to surf. It's on my 'to do' list for sure. Echo Beach has inspired that in me.

Photo shot at Echo Beach in Canggu, Bali, Indonesia.

Bali Triathlon 2011

2011-07-02T15:34:00.005+08:00

I have always believed that if I put my mind to it, almost anything is possible. Case in point, the Bali Triathlon. What started as casual banter with my friend Eileen, an enthusiastic triathlete, ultimately turned out to be an extremely enjoyable and satisfying experience.

My team-mates, Richard (bike) and Lee Kuen (run), and I (swim) combined to race our first triathlon relay in Bali last Sunday, 26 June. Granted, we only participated in the sprint distance, it was an achievement nevertheless considering it was our first try and we did reasonably well, finishing in 16th place among all the teams taking part.

I had taken the effort to train for the past six months in the pool but no amount of training would prepare one fully for a swim in the sea. In fact, I only had one training swim in the sea the afternoon before race day but that allayed some of my concerns as the waters of Jimbaran Bay were relatively calm and not as cold as I had expected. I had a great time during the race per se. Apparently I came out of the water in 12th place, and we definitely swam more than the original distance as there were claims that the transition buoys shifted positions. What I didn't train for was the run on the beach from the water to the bike transition area. Although only 800m in distance, I struggled as I don't normally run, not even on the treadmill in the gym. I'll have to be better prepared next time. Yes, next time. We are already planning for our next race, so exciting and fun this experience was.

Photo of Richard, Eileen, yours truly and Lee Kuen shot by Shirley Hoo at Jimbaran Bay in Bali, Indonesia.

Countdown To Bali Triathlon

2011-06-23T17:09:00.006+08:00

Here's a photo of Eileen, Richard and I the last time we were in Bali last October. This time round, we will have to take another photo, including Lee Kuen too, as the four of us will be participating in the Bali Triathlon this Sunday.

Team Journeys For Two @ Eileen, will be racing the Olympic Distance whereas Team weddingsmalaysia @ yours truly, Richard and Lee Kuen will be racing the Sprint Distance Relay. The event will be a first for Lee Kuen and I, and together with Richard, we just aim to enjoy the experience and complete the race. As for Eileen, well, let's just say she is ultra-competitive despite having fallen ill due to overtraining. Knowing her, she will still put up a good race. And to document it all, we are happy to have Shirley joining us on the trip and we've asked her to just snap away as she likes.

I am also particularly looking forward to the few days of R&R after the race. Good food, good company and pleasant surrounds, Bali is always a favourite of mine.

Photo shot in Ubud, Bali, Indonesia last year.

Myeongdong Cathedral

2011-06-19T06:23:00.004+08:00

Some find it surprising that although a Buddhist, I also visit houses of worship of other religions and say a prayer, when the opportunity arises. I believe in a universal God.

Here's a photo of me on the steps leading to Myeongdong Cathedral, the oldest Catholic church in Seoul. I admired its architecture, had a look round the grounds, said a prayer and blessed myself with some holy water.

And as always, I leave a house of worship renewed in faith and hope.

Photo shot in Seoul, Korea.

Jogyesa

2011-06-15T22:48:00.004+08:00

Those who know my travel habits would be aware that whenever possible, I will pay a visit to a temple in the city which I am visiting to say a little prayer. It was no different when in Seoul and I made it a point to include Jogyesa Buddhist Temple as one of the 'must see's in my itinerary.

I often give thanks for the opportunity to travel. I pray for success in business and fulfillment in life. Good health for my family and friends. When at a place of worship in a foreign land, I pay close attention to what the worshippers do and try to follow suit. And more often than not, the locals will offer advice through gestures, particularly if they do not speak much English. This I very much appreciate.

Here is a photo of the many wishing lanterns at Jogyesa.

Photo shot at Jogyesa Buddhist Temple in Insadong, Seoul, Korea.

Gyoja

2011-06-11T20:46:00.005+08:00

If you could only see the queues at Gyoja, a decades old restaurant in Myeong-dong, Seoul. From the tiny dining room to the corridor right out the front door to the lane and snaking round the bend, one has to see it to believe it.

We arrived just before noon for lunch and the place was already packed. Fortunately, the line was just starting and we were shown our seats after a ten minute wait. Mum and I cramped into our seats, a table for four, shared with two Korean gentlemen in suits. We promptly chose to have the dumplings and knife-cut noodles, two dishes from their menu of four. Yes you did not read wrong! This well-known restaurant has had only four selections to choose from since 1966. What they do, they do well, that's for sure. Those must have been the best dumplings I have eaten in my life. Meaty, moist and full of flavour.

A day later while walking along the same lane, I overhead two tourists from Hong Kong lamenting the fact that they could not locate the famed restaurant which served wonderful dumplings and noodles. I jumped, uninvited, into their conversation and took it upon myself to show them the place. I was rewarded with multiple and incessant 'thank you's. I guess it is always nice to share a good thing.

Our meal at Gyoja in Myeongdong, Seoul, Korea.

Seoul

2011-06-09T01:15:00.006+08:00

Seoul had never been on my list of places to visit. However, I chose it as the go to place as a surprise for my Mum, a birthday present so to speak. A fanatic fan of Korean dramas, I thought it apt that a trip to Seoul would be something that she'd very much look forward to.

As it turned out, Mum had a wonderful time as I had expected, more surprising was the fact that Seoul has really grown on me. A pleasant surprise. I'd make a return trip any time. The juxtaposition of old and new, tradition and modernity, sedate and energetic, East and West, all make for an intriguing experience. The friendliness of the Korean people in particular made an impression. There is a relatively large Korean community in the vicinity of where I work here in Kuala Lumpur, but they've never seemed approachable. So to have them offer directions and advice whilst visiting their capital city came across as welcome and pleasant encounters.

Lots to see, good food and great shopping are a given, cosy restaurants and little tea rooms are a highlight too. It's not cheap, neither is it beyond my means. I don't stinge when on holiday. Whatever I've budgeted, I spend, be it on food, transportation and quintessential Korean experiences, so much so that I even found time to savour tea at four tea rooms, some traditional, some more contemporary, each with its own unique character, in the short few days I was there. So thanks for the positive vibes Seoul. I'll definitely re-visit at some point.

Having tea in Insadong, Seoul, Korea.

Trying

2011-05-31T22:23:00.010+08:00

I've been trying to watch what I eat. In part to stay healthy, in part vanity. I have friends who are much more disciplined than I am, others who are less so. I suppose one has to be comfortable with one's own regime, however strict, however slack.

I would admit to not being overly strict with myself. I pay attention most times, but I also reward myself fairly regularly. I just hope that the former outweighs the latter. Swimming, which I do quite regularly, should help.

I would say that for me, it is important to enjoy life, to indulge when the opportunity arises. I have learnt to live in the moment as best I can. Sure I plan for the future but for the most part I try to make the most of today.

A healthy breakfast at The Kala in Koh Samui, Thailand.

Mixed?

2011-05-27T23:21:00.004+08:00

I've been asked this question twice in the last few days, 'Are you mixed?' One a client, another a new acquaintance. 'Not that I know of' is my answer. I find this quite funny. This always happens to me too when I visit Bali. The locals always ask if I am Japanese.

The only possible reason that I can think of as to why some may think that I am of mixed parentage is perhaps of my tan. I've been swimming a lot lately in preparation for the Bali triathlon, and I often do so during lunch time under the blazing sun. Similarly when on holiday in Bali, I am usually red as a lobster.

Whatever the case may be, I am Malaysian first, of Chinese origin second.

Photo shot in Ho Chi Minh City in Vietnam last Christmas.

Preview Of Journeys For Two 2011

2011-05-22T08:16:00.014+08:00

I attended a friend's birthday party last night and whilst chatting with some of the other guests was asked about the trend of going abroad for wedding portraits. Indeed this has become increasingly popular, similar to the growth seen in the destination weddings segment of the market where we see more and more couples heading to exotic locales for their wedding. The varied landscapes and diverse cultures of our region make the Asia Pacific a leading contender in the destination wedding stakes.

This is also the time of year where we are busy preparing for the printing of Journeys For Two - Destination Weddings For The Stylish And Chic. The 2010 issue did well and I have high hopes for 2011 too. It is always a challenge working on this title as coordinating with our partners throughout the region can be an arduous task. Having said that, it is immensely satisfying when the publication is completed and hopefully well received.

A number of my friends, some still single, others back single, cannot fathom what the fuss is all about when it comes to weddings. For those so fortunate to have embarked on this journey, and as cliched as it may seem, I believe it is about the commitment and sanctity of love, a faithful embrace of going through the adventure of life as a couple. Admittedly, I share the same sentiments of some of these friends of mine from time to time. However, I'd like to think that I am a strong advocate of fate and the pleasant surprises that it has in store.

Message from Publisher and Editor-In-Chief in Journeys For Two 2011.

Be Content And Happy

2011-05-19T08:15:00.006+08:00

So very often we feel discontented and unhappy at what we experience in our lives. I suppose it is human nature to always want more, to always want to be treated better, to always seek more financial success. We somehow feel inadequate and shortchanged. It is this mindset that gets us down.

Realising this negative attitude is the first step towards redemption. Difficult as it may seem, I understand that it is important to remain positive, to see the silver lining, to look at the good and let go of the not so great. Sometimes it pays to just let life work itself out. I am now better at accepting graciously what life sends my way.

Being content and happy is what we all look forward to. Both can be attained through a positive outlook. I came across this last night, pretty inspiring I think.

Photo shot by my sister at the lobby of The Kala in Koh Samui, Thailand.

Brunch And Then Great Evening Out

2011-05-16T22:13:00.018+08:00

I had a great evening out with 3 good friends, another belated birthday treat. We started the evening with cakes and chocolate at Levain before heading to Pudu for Hokkien Mee. Although the food was good, it is always the company that I appreciate most.

I am stating the obvious - good friends are those who accept you as you are and who can tell you off point blank when necessary, with no hard feelings harboured. They are also people whom you can bounce ideas off, share one's innermost secrets with and get an honest opinion.

Indulging with friends is always a treat. Come to think of it, I started the day off pretty good too, brunch with a client turned friend. Catching up over Roti Bakar and tea beats doing so on Facebook hands down. All in all a much enjoyable off day.

Photo of cakes at Levain.

Throwing Caution To The Wind

2011-05-15T07:22:00.007+08:00

I've been exercising quite regularly of late, a resolution for 2011 which I am still fulfilling. A few swims a week plus a session or two at the gym. The former I do pretty effortlessly since I have been swimming almost all my life, the latter a bit more of a challenge as I am rather not that disciplined when it comes to working out at the gym. Still, a recent medical check-up turned out pretty ok, which means I am doing relatively well.

My friend and financial planner Doris recently treated me to dinner, a belated birthday celebration at La Risata in Ampang Hilir and boy did I indulge. Garlic bread, pizza, spaghetti with lobster and creme brulee all in one sitting. Sometimes, it's good to throw caution to the wind and just go for it. What is life without some indulgence every now and then. I of course had to make up for it the following day with more swimming instead of lunch but hey, there are always consequences to one's actions, good or bad.

Throwing caution to the wind. That's something that I seem to be doing a lot of lately. I notice it in some aspects of my life, I intend to expand it to all areas of life. Embracing what life offers, taking chances. The motto 'no venture, no gain' seems to be a calling.

Photo of part of my meal at La Risata recently.

Mother's Day

2011-05-12T06:23:00.000+08:00

Suk Harn and I celebrated Mother's Day last Sunday with Mum with lunch at Reunion at Bangsar Village. I come from a large extended family and whilst big family gatherings to celebrate special occasions are always enjoyable, sometimes, it is nice to have a quiet celebration on a smaller scale.

With Mum's birthday coming up in a few weeks, I decided to do a double take on the celebrations. Unlike last year in Turkey, I did not go on a holiday for my birthday this time round. Instead I am using the funds to take Mum on a trip to Seoul. My mother is a die-hard fan of Korean dramas, so this would be an apt destination for a quick jaunt. Some sightseeing, some food, some shopping, meeting up with a friend or two. An easy-going trip I hope it will be.

Some friends have lamented the fact that I seem to be traveling almost every month this second half of the year. I reply with a response that I learnt from my friends Suan Bee and C Hun ... 'if not now, when?'.

Photo courtesy of my sister, Suk Harn.

Calm

2011-05-08T07:18:00.005+08:00

In my line of work, whether publishing at weddings-malaysia or creating attire at That Special Occasion, challenges abound. My friend and financial planner Doris recently told me to stop using the word 'stress' due to its negative connotation, so 'challenge' it shall be.

One important lesson that I've learnt is to 'keep calm and carry on' regardless of the circumstances. I am certainly an advocate of 'the show must go on' no matter what. Sometimes I get my feathers ruffled and I've also learnt to treat it like 'water off a duck's back'. Only then can one move forward, and in fact I tend to get much more motivated when faced with such challenges.

So to those who may from time to time face the same situations in which I find myself in every now and then - 'keep calm and carry on'.

Photo shot at B'Sweet in Hatyai, Thailand.

Birthday 2011

2011-05-02T23:28:00.016+08:00

A friend, Celia from Spain, reminded me on Facebook that I was in Turkey last year for my birthday. We met on a tour to Aspendos, near Antalya, on the Mediterranean coast of Turkey. I was supposed to be in Shanghai this time round but plans fell through. I suppose it is a blessing in disguise as I have another plan up my sleeve for next month. It's meant to be a surprise. So we shall wait and see.

I started today doing the morning news at RTM and then headed straight for a swim. Other than training for the swimming leg of the Bali Triathlon relay end of June, I am also working to be fit enough for a project involving my photographer friends Peter and Evelyn. The latter is another one of my self-motivation endeavours which for now shall remain private too. Next up was shopping for our Nepal trip in September with my cousin Lynette. Who would believe we could spend almost two hours just getting the basics. It is good that we are starting early. I gather I will need much preparation for this particular trip. I am not one who usually roughs it out on holiday, so it will certainly be an adventure. A nice dim sum lunch resolved our hunger pangs after the shopping.

A much needed nap later, Mum, Suk Harn and I headed out to Siang Lin's advanced birthday and thanksgiving party. It was great catching up with a number of friends whom I have not seen in quite a while, particularly those from the advertising industry. My birthday and Siang Lin's are only two days apart, and since today is actually my birthday, I got a cake and a song too, despite my telling her earlier that it was not necessary in view of the fact that the event was much more of a thanksgiving party on her behalf. All in all a pretty fab day I would say.

Photo of me enjoying a birthday lunch on a beautiful spring day in Istanbul last year.

Royal Wedding

2011-04-30T21:27:00.007+08:00

I heard that some wedding industry colleagues declared a half day holiday yesterday so that they could all head home to watch the Royal Wedding. I didn't go as far as that but did leave work early and just made it in time to catch Kate Middleton enroute to Westminster Abbey. I remember watching Diana's and Charles' wedding as a child and now years later, I just had to do a post about Kate's and William's wedding.

Right after the ceremony, I texted my cousin Kiat Ken and asked if he was in the crowd. I received a call from him soon enough telling me that like us, he was watching from the comforts of home with another cousin of mine Lye Synn who has in London on holiday. He was much amused when I told him that my mum had been watching the proceedings since noon and it was now almost 8pm.

In the line of work that I am in, and I believe I speak for the majority of my industry friends as well, we relish such opportunities to witness these historic occasions that are filled with pomp and pageantry. They inspire us, they validate the work we do. And it is good for business that's for sure. So congratulations William and Kate. Here's a toast to you.

Photo of the British royals.

Lessons

2011-04-28T01:11:00.005+08:00

Sometimes a certain story plot in a TV series strikes a chord and makes one contem-plate the issue at hand. We watch TV for entertainment first and foremost but I think we can learn a lesson or two every now and then too.

Once in a while, I feel vulnerable and these are the occasions when I seem to be more susceptible to identifying with the issues that a particular episode is trying to convey. Rather than just brush it off as entertainment, I tend to ponder and deliberate.

Whether we like to admit it or not, we all have our insecurities, our inadequacies, we have our as yet unfulfilled aspirations, we have our fears. I'd like to think that being able to acknowledge such shortcomings is the first step in working towards redemption. Overcoming these nagging worries takes strength and courage, resolve, perseverance, determination and steadfastness. The will of the human spirit is what will help us along our way.

Contemplating by the sea.

Surprise Birthday Party

2011-04-25T06:22:00.005+08:00

Leticia and Tze Han plotted a surprise birthday party for the former's other half Tjun Hong on Saturday and it paid off handsomely - the birthday boy was totally taken aback, in a pleasant way of course. It is always nice when such effort comes good.

I was priveleged to be invited to be part of the celebration and an enjoyable evening it was. Great company and much food at Essence at Sheraton Imperial Kuala Lumpur. An intimate party with good conversation peppered with anecdotes.

I always prefer smaller guest lists as was the case on Saturday. It gives everyone the opportunity to chat and connect on a more personal basis. And when the crowd is a circle of close friends, people whom we are familiar with, uninhibited meaningful conversations add to the merriment.

Photo of birthday candles.

Balanced Diet

2011-04-22T00:15:00.011+08:00

I am trying my best to have a balanced diet and it is definitely a chore, albeit a necessary one. I am instinct-ively an unhealthy eater. I love decadent desserts, I love fastfood, I love super sweet teh tarik, my favourite style of cooking is deep frying, I like my food salty, I am not a fan of plain water, I don't fancy anything wholemeal, I love to eat out, you get the picture.

For the past year or so however, I have been making a concerted effort to be a bit more health-conscious food-wise. I am not extremely disciplined but I gather a bit of effort is better than none at all. And most regrettably, I have given up my all time favourite drink, Coke! It used to be a staple for me but it has now been relegated to once in a blue moon. Sigh.

Add to such an effort some regular swimming and I guess I am doing pretty alright. But one thing's for sure, I am always looking for an excuse to reward myself. Rewarding oneself, isn't that what the good life is all about?

New Year's Eve BBQ at my friend Bunny's.

The Bright Side

2011-04-18T23:01:00.005+08:00

Looking at the bright side of things. I often offer this piece of advice to friends who are in need of hearing this. Wise words no doubt, but sometimes, it is much easier said than done. I too at times, find myself struggling to find that silver lining. It is during these moments that one needs to summon the positive outlook that helps us see the sunlight during overcast days.

Successful individuals often share tales of how optimism and self-belief have contributed to their achievements. Self-help books espouse the virtues of positive thinking. The Secret advocates the law of attraction. All these are universal values. If we care to spend the time looking more closely, we will identify with them.

So why do we doubt ourselves? We should instead have faith in ourselves. Be willing to embrace change. Be courageous enough to face challenges. Be lighthearted enough to see the good in bad situations that we sometimes find ourselves in. To see the bright side of things.

Photo of Leticia and I at Leticia's and Tjun Hong's wedding in Bali, Indonesia where the couple received showers of blessings. Photo courtesy of Jim Liaw Photography.

One Of Those Moods

2011-04-13T22:26:00.005+08:00

I am in one of those moods, actually, I have been in one of those moods for quite a while now. I gather everyone goes through such moments from time to time, except the super-perky ones I suppose. I belong to the former.

My long time friends, and I mean those who have known me for more than a decade, would readily acknowledge that I have my moods. In fact, I have been rather infamous for them in the past. My friend Shirley insists that she can sense a scowl by the way I answer the phone. She says I have improved, but that's only because I make the extra effort when I see her name appear on my phone! And I have been in need of such extra effort of late. For many reasons, some personal, others professional, I haven't been in the best frame of mind the past couple of weeks. I deal with it as I best know how and I am sure it'll soon pass.

In the meantime, I surround myself with positive vibes. Exercise. Good food with friends. Indulging my sweet tooth. Wisdom from wise words. And a reflexology and massage are definitely long overdue.

Notre Dame Cathedral in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

Rut

2011-04-10T06:18:00.007+08:00

We tend to get into a rut from time to time. This is more so especially when our lives revolve a routine. Work, eat, sleep, more work, the weekend; the cycle repeats itself over and over for the majority, myself included. Although I make it a point to have some leisure whenever I can during the work week, there always seems to be a pull to break out of the mundane and do more, things that nurture the spirit and feed the soul.

I have a variety of interests, as do so many of us. The perennial challenge is finding the time to throw ourselves into these interests. I envy many of our Western counterparts, those who seem to be able to leave everything behind for a couple of months to take on new challenges, to travel the world, to volunteer perhaps, to truly experience life in a different circumstance.

For me, the longest viable break I can take is probably ten days or thereabouts, and I do ensure these periods away from the routine happen, a couple of times a year at least. Human nature however always makes us want more. I am plotting to see if I can take a month off next year. It'll take lots of planning. Some of my friends think I won't succeed. That certainly remains to be seen.

Photo shot at Beach Republic in Koh Samui, Thailand.

Sweet Tooth

2011-04-06T22:31:00.005+08:00

Yes indeed. I have a sweet tooth. Now you know why I have to do those swims during lunch time! Allowing myself to indulge means I sometimes have to sacrifice lunch to go for a swim to work the calories off.

Sherly of Tie The Knot came by That Special Occasion with a client for a fitting two evenings ago and with her she brought a gift. A cute gift I might add, with instructions to 'Take twice a day to keep the bridezillas away'. Thoughtful and creative. And the strawberry cake flavoured jelly beans? Let's just say I am overdosing big time.

It is always encouraging to see wedding industry colleagues come up with unique ideas. This is when we can tell clients 'you are paying for our ideas and expertise'. And originality doesn't come cheap, so there you go!

Photo courtesy of Sherly Aziz of Tie The Knot.

Confidence And Trust

2011-04-03T08:10:00.005+08:00

My cousin in Hong Kong, Roy, will be marrying Ming in January 2012. When this news was conveyed to me during their visit to KL early this year, I offered them a gift of a wedding gown. They graciously accepted and I appreciate the confidence they have in my abilities. I say this because not all in my family have done so in the past. I always enjoy working on gowns for family members, it is fulfilling.

We have been discussing designs via email the past few weeks with sketches and photos sent back and forth. The design has now been decided and I am excited to embark on this project soon. Ming's kind words of 'I absolutely trust you' also makes me want to do my best.

I'll be heading to Hong Kong and China for a holiday come August. I intend to bring the dress along for a fitting then. It will be fun.

Photo of Ming and Roy shot in Kuala Lumpur in January.

Cafes

2011-03-31T22:58:00.018+08:00

I like visiting cafes, be it in town or when I am traveling. Thing is, I don't drink coffee but that hasn't stopped me from enjoying a chocolate or tea. I sometimes work in a cafe, writing, answering emails, but most times, I am happy just to have some solitude, reading a magazine amid pleasant surrounds.

Lately, I have had a craving for cakes, don't ask me why, the result of which is that I am finding myself being drawn towards spending more time in such establishments. Looks like the calories are inevitable and are a foregone conclusion.

I guess what this means is that I'll have to swim more. The sacrifices one has to make to indulge.

Photo of Bitter Sweet in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

Buble

2011-03-28T22:47:00.027+08:00

I had wanted to go watch Michael Buble's concert but as usual left it to the last minute and was told that tickets were sold out. Then I saw a friend's status on Facebook indicating that she wouldn't be able to attend and had tickets to sell, fairly pricey tickets too at RM850 a piece.

An afternoon tea and some business talk later, I had my tickets. Suffice to say whatever deal I made was worth it. Fab singing, fab songs, fab moves, fab cajoling. My only complaint - below par air conditioning and needless to say, the toilets at the stadium. I was also hoping to hear this song live but alas it was not in his repertoire that evening.

I have in the past missed many a concert because of procrastination. I've learnt my lesson. In future, I'll be quick to pounce on tickets. Slap me if I don't!

Michael Buble's Crazy Love Tour.

Appreciative Winners

2011-03-25T00:04:00.005+08:00

Congratulations to Samantha and Gavin, winners of the recently concluded Splendour Of Nature contest in which both weddingsmalaysia and That Special Occasion were sponsors.

Their story is one that inspires, one that encourages hope, one that reinforces our trust in fate and destiny. I did not have the pleasure of meeting Gavin in person but I did have the good fortune of designing a wedding gown as well as a cheongsam for Samantha. I say good fortune because Samantha is one of the most gracious brides I have met in my decade in the business. It's winners like Samantha that make our participation in such contests worthwhile.

I'd like to think that I speak for my fellow sponsors too when I say that an appreciative winner really makes our day. We put in the effort and when the effort is appreciated and recognised, it makes our work all that more enjoyable. Here's to the both of you Samantha and Gavin! Read about their story here and here.

Photo of Samantha and Gavin by Kid Chan Studio.

Ah Yei's 3rd Anniversary

2011-03-21T00:05:00.005+08:00

17 March 2011 marked the third anniversary of my paternal grand-father's passing. As we do every year, the extended family gathered for dinner to celebrate his life and the joy he brought to all of us.

Ah Yei was a fantastic chef. It is therefore apt that we remember him with a lavish meal. The photo says it all. We had steamboat with a variety of meat, vegetables and condiments; 3 tables in total at the family home. The secret is the stock - chicken stock boiled over a coal fire for numerous hours before being transferred into the steamboat. Cut mango and homemade 'tow foo fah' followed as desserts. We eat as only the Wongs know how.

We remember Ah Yei fondly. His culinary skills, his affable disposition, the unconditional love he had for us all.

Photo courtesy of cousin Ruth a.k.a. Perut Besi.

Good Food In Hatyai

2011-03-17T00:15:00.005+08:00

You know the food is good when every dish is wiped clean at every meal. That was the case during our company trip to Hatyai recently. Good food always makes a trip more enjoyable. Good food with good company I might add.

I have been going to Hatyai since I was about 7. My late father worked for Bangkok Bank all his life and we often visited Thailand, be it Hatyai, Bangkok or Chiangmai. I've in the past year or two added Phuket and Koh Samui to the list. Going back to Hatyai, since we are almost always creatures of habit, I like to go back to the same restaurants that I have so enjoyed dining at over the years. I rely on my mum who keeps a stack of business cards which come in handy when giving directions to tuk-tuk drivers. And we are never disappointed when we get to these restaurants.

This time round, we averaged 8 to 10 dishes during every lunch and dinner. Add that to breakfast, afternoon tea and supper, plus snacks from roadside vendors in between, well, you do the math in terms of calories! But that's what holidays are about ain't it? Makan!

Photo shot at Kaneng Restaurant in Hatyai, Thailand.

Team Work

2011-03-14T21:44:00.005+08:00

Teamwork is important in any organi-sation. Although I may rant and complain, I value my team, both at weddingsmalaysia and at That Special Occasion. I am demanding yes, because I expect all of us to do the best that we can. Those who fall short need to be told, myself included. Only then can we improve.

Going on a trip together helps us bond and we do one every year, except last year when I felt we were not up to the mark in our performance the year before. We did pretty well in 2010 and hence our company trip recently. In Hatyai, we shopped, we gorged ourselves with food, we relaxed with massages and reflexology sessions. By spending time together, camaraderie was also enhanced.

It's now back to the grind but there is always next year's trip to look forward to. We ought to do well this year!

Group photo shot at lobby of Novotel Centara Hatyai, Thailand.

Company Trip

2011-03-12T01:21:00.003+08:00

I've just returned from our company trip to Hatyai, a combined trip for my teams at weddingsmalaysia and That Special Occasion. We've been doing this for the past couple of years - Penang, Siem Reap, Bali, Phuket. It's an opportunity to bond, to have some fun after a year's worth of hard work.

I chose Hatyai this time round as I felt shopping and food would do us good. No worries about planning any sightseeing itinerary. Shop till we drop, eat to our hearts' content were top priority. Throw massage and reflexology into the equation and you have it, a truly enjoyable couple of days.

Come the end of the trip, we always look forward to the next one. The destination for 2012? Well, it will really depend on how well we do this year. I guess we are all motivated in a way to do the best we can. The better we do, the more attractive the destination I suppose. Here's to closing more deals in the months ahead.

Here I am shopping in the Old Market in Hatyai, Thailand.

Little Pleasures

2011-03-04T01:12:00.003+08:00

The little pleasures during a business trip is what makes the trip an enjoyable one. True, I am pleased when I get to close deals; they are the raison d'etre that I go on such trips in the first place. But when I find time to squeeze in some leisure, that makes it even more worthwhile.

Lucky are those who get to experience something new and I make sure that I do on every business trip. Such an experience can take many forms. A new place to eat. A new attraction to visit. New acquaintances.

Making an effort does yield new experiences. The question that begs to be asked then is 'will you make the effort?'

Photo of me having drinks with Suan Bee, C Hun, Hai Liang and Mong Ling at Yeng Keng Hotel, Penang, Malaysia.

Love Carnival In Penang

2011-03-01T07:28:00.012+08:00

I was in Penang over the weekend to participate in the Love Carnival held at Chymes. I had great fun catching up with industry friends such as Suan Bee, C Hun and Beatrice of Touching Hearts, Jason of Floralsense Creation, Alishia of One Tree, Ke Wynn of Whizarts, Sharon and Kee Sitt of Wedding Story and Ween Nee of Love-A-Cupcake. Other than meeting potential clients, including Angelina and Albert, we also let our hair down with photos and props from Ke Wynn's latest venture Say Cheese!, as evident in the photo here.

I also found time to meet up with my friend Elisa of Hard Rock Hotel Penang as well as Suleiman of Shangri-La's Rasa Sayang Resort & Spa over a drink and lunch respectively. It's always nice to catch up on the latest - professionally and personally - and I appreciate them making the time to meet. Whenever in Penang, Suan Bee and C Hun always make it a point to take me for a taste of Hokkien Mee or as it is known in KL, Prawn Mee. We have now decided that one of my quests would be to try all the best Hokkien Mee in Penang. I have done four so far - Lorong Bangkok, opposite the police station on Burmah Road, in Island Glades (can't remember name of coffee shop) and Super Hokkien Mee (again my sense of direction fails me as to where this place is) - and there are apparently quite a number more to conquer.

This trip, I found more time for social gatherings. Suan Bee, C Hun and I also had dinner with Mong Ling and Hai Liang, friends and clients of ours, at Nyonya Breeze on Abu Siti Lane which was fab. Even more fab was a visit to Yeng Keng Hotel, a boutique hotel fashioned from a beautifully refurbished colonial building on Chulia Street. Drinks at the courtyard was very much enjoyable and I guess we gave the waiter quite a headache by demanding he capture us in a perfectly composed photo. Last but certainly not least, I never fail to meet up with my friends Ken Lin and Sally when visiting Penang, even if it is only for a quick supper at Gurney Drive. I have Lin Chee Kang from the same stall every time. Creature of habit I am. Thanks Penang for the good time, every time!

Photo of Love Carnival participants.

Temples

2011-02-24T23:37:00.003+08:00

Wherever I travel, I try to make it a point to visit at least one temple and pray. If there isn't one at that particular destination, then another house of worship.

I am known to be relatively 'long-winded' when praying at temples, family and friends who have traveled with me can attest to that. I use the word 'relatively' because I don't particularly think I take too long. I just take more time than most of my travel companions, that's all.

I leave a temple with renewed faith after a visit, always.

At the Big Buddha in Koh Samui, Thailand.

Solitude

2011-02-20T22:50:00.004+08:00

Sometimes it is good to have some solitude. Some time alone to ponder over things, to clear one's mind of clutter, to think of new ideas, to strategise, to enjoy one's own company.

I am rather busy most days meeting with brides-to-be, dealing with industry colleagues on their ad materials and the like. So when the opportunity arises for me to have some time out alone, I jump at it. Doing laps in a pool all to myself during lunch, a reflexology session at the hands of a brutal Chinese therapist, a hot chocolate in a cafe, even a one night stay in a hotel should I be so lucky to have a complimentary-stay voucher every once in a while.

I've noticed that solitude in a nice, relaxing environment helps me in my writing. I also tend to be more productive when editing text, I am more gung-ho in initiating meetings with potential advertisers via email, more gets done. A little time to oneself does wonders.

Photo of the interior of Notre Dame Cathedral in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

Setting

2011-02-19T01:06:00.004+08:00

Other than the food, the setting of a restaurant plays a part in the entire gastro-nomic experience. Those who read this blog often enough would know that I love the sea. I am most happy when I am on holiday by the sea and definitely enjoy having a meal either on the beach itself, at a restaurant fronting the beach or perhaps like the one in the photo with beautiful seaviews as a backdrop.

I am not too fussy with food when on holiday. I don't complain unless it is very bad. For the most part, I make it a point to be a bit more laid-back and take things in stride. And when the setting is as beautiful as this, coupled with great food at reasonable prices, well, that's a bonus.

I am going on holiday again in 2 weeks, a combined company trip for weddingsmalaysia and That Special Occasion. A trip for eating and shopping, no sightseeing. I look forward to more food!

Photo shot at Tarua Restaurant in Lamai, Koh Samui, Thailand.

Chinese New Year Feasting

2011-02-15T23:45:00.004+08:00

OK I've done a count. From the eve of Chinese New Year till today, the 13th day of the year of the Golden Rabbit, I've feasted at 17 Chinese New Year-related meals! And that is not including the 4-day holiday I took in Samui! There are still 2 more days of festivities to go and I've got 2 more dinners set. I should therefore hit 19 by Chap Goh Mei. That is quite a lot of food.

Just today alone, being a public holiday, I enjoyed 3 major meals. It started with an early lunch with my friends Yoke Choo, Tony and Soon Kok, the former two ex-Genting, the latter still Genting. Dim sum and Waxed Meat Rice started the ball rolling. From lunch I headed straight to an afternoon tea hosted by our family friends, the Khaws. Roti Jala with Chicken Curry, Seri Muka, Layered Cake and Fruit Jelly; I didn't even dare try to take on the Mee Siam. An afternoon nap later, it was off to Chinese Treasures at Sime Darby Convention Centre for an 8-course banquet dinner hosted by an uncle from my Mum's side of the family. It was a wise move on my part therefore to have gotten in a swim this morning right after I completed the morning news at RTM. The exercise in a way relieves me a little from the guilt of such indulgence. I think more swimming and gymming will be required over the next few weeks to shed the excesses.

The thing is, what is a celebration without food? Chinese New Year is a time when we renew ties with family and friends, mostly over a meal, or more accurately, numerous meals. Communal feasting enhances kinship, promotes camaraderie, creates memories. And when the company is good, the experience goes up a notch too. It is a blessing and we should be thankful. I guess what I am trying to say is I look forward to more feasting over the remaining days of the Chinese New Year celebrations. I hope you do too!

Photo of Waxed Meat Rice.

Recycling

2011-02-14T17:42:00.003+08:00

Due to the influence of my cousin San, we are all, well some of us anyways, trying to be a bit more environmentally conscious. This past Christmas, I received a nice gift of decadent, calorie-inducing goodies, beautifully presented in a chest-like box and I suggested to my mum to make use of the chest this Chinese New Year as well.

With the Poinsettia, a symbol of Christmas still in place, my mum added to the chest mandarin oranges, eight gold nuggets and an angpow. I thought it looked pretty good, a well-executed recycling job.

As the world faces climate change and endures the resultant natural disasters, perhaps we should all play a small role in negating its effects. We have to start somewhere, and any little effort, when added up together, may just help us along the way.

Prosperity box during Chinese New Year.

Hearing It From Someone Else

2011-02-11T00:13:00.003+08:00

You already know it, but sometimes when you hear it from someone else, it validates what you have always known.

A friend initiated a chat on Facebook recently, a friend from school who I reconnected with a year or two ago. In the course of our conversation, we talked about how life surprises us sometimes when we least expect it. How when we decide to turn left, fate decides that we should go right instead. How when no matter how hard we try, the aspired outcome does not eventuate, just because 'the right time has not arrived yet'.

We try to control so many aspects of our lives, but so often, many are beyond our control. Sometimes, it is best to leave it to the stars. I am not advocating being complacent. Strive to achieve those aspirations and hopes yes, put myself in a positive frame of mind in order to see the signs yes, have faith yes, but more importantly, trust in fate too. You see, I already knew all this, but hearing it from another definitely makes it even more convincing. And one has to be convinced in order to believe. Thanks 'lurker'!

Photo of the pool at The Kala in Koh Samui, Thailand.

Koh Samui

2011-02-09T23:29:00.005+08:00

I was in Samui for a four-day holiday during the Chinese New Year break. My mum and I had coerced my sister into giving us a treat, seeing that she got promoted last year. Any holiday is a good holiday but this was made even better as it was courtesy of my sister. I hope she gets a raise again soon!

I love the sea and consequently love island holidays. Beautiful seascapes, the sounds of the waves, the gentle sea breeze, the sun, all combine to entice me to sunbathe just that little while longer. Add to that good food and a laid-back vibe, what's there not to love about Samui? I could have easily stayed on for a few more days if work schedules had permitted. I suppose there is an excuse to return in the future then.

Combining a relaxing holiday at a relatively easygoing locale and Chinese New Year is a perfect way to start the year of the Rabbit. I come back refreshed and reinvigorated. I appreciate the opportunity to travel. I relish the experiences that such sojourns bestow. More importantly, I come back wanting to work harder, so that I may indulge in more travel soon.

Photo shot at The Kala in Koh Samui, Thailand.

Chinese New Year : Year Of The Rabbit

2011-02-05T00:16:00.005+08:00

This Chinese New Year is one of optimism and hope for me. The year of the Rabbit brings good in all aspects of life and it certainly augurs well for what lies ahead.

With good stars, I have been paying close attention to the traditions, rituals and cultural practices that will enhance positive outcomes. To believe is important. Happiness, health, love, success, wealth, fulfilment - all that we desire.

I arm myself with faith and self-belief this new year. To put my best foot forward in all that I do. To reap the wonderful outcomes that come my way.

Photo shot at Thean Hou Temple, Petaling Jaya, Malaysia.

Chinese New Year 2011 : Reunion Dinner

2011-02-04T23:47:00.005+08:00

We always have a reunion dinner at the family home of my Father's side of the family come Chinese New Year. My late grandparents were avid chefs and would cook up a storm during such gatherings. They would insist of having ten dishes, all lovingly prepared for us to feast on.

We have in a way kept the tradition alive. Perhaps not ten dishes but as you can see here, eight ain't too shabby. Having a hearty home-cooked meal with family, particularly during this time of year, is something I look forward to. Some of the recipes have been handed down from my grandparents and they are special in their own way.

Family ties have always been paramount amongst most of my extended family and is very much evident during Chinese New Year. We come together to mark the conclusion of a year and the start of a better one, to celebrate the ties that bind us together as a family.

Photo of the spread during the reunion dinner.

Chinese New Year 2011 : Reunion Lunch

2011-02-04T23:26:00.006+08:00

This year, the reunion lunch with Mum's side of the family was extra special as my cousins Siew Yoong and San as well as their two boys were in town from Singapore. Together with my aunts, uncles and the rest of my cousins, we had a long, leisurely lunch with much food and banter.

Our generation of cousins decided to sit together this year, partly by choice, partly due to necessity. San is an environmental activist of sorts and has always encouraged us to abstain from consuming Shark's Fin Soup. In respect of his stand, we cousins opted to be on the same table and had a Double Boiled Chicken Soup instead. Personally, I much prefer the latter.

My mother's side of the family is a boisterous lot and there is always a great atmosphere when we get together. The reunion lunch was no different and Chinese New Year is always a good time to renew ties and strengthen bonds.

Photo of cousins at Restaurant Extra Super Tanker Bandar Utama, Petaling Jaya, Malaysia.

Chinese New Year Mood

2011-01-30T23:26:00.005+08:00

I am in the Chinese New Year mood. My work to conclude the year of the Tiger is almost done, well, just a couple more errands to run in the next two days. The cookies and snacks are piled high waiting to be consumed. The angpows for my staff have been distributed. The angpows for the elders are soon to be ready. I've enjoyed a couple of 'yeesang' already, with family, friends and close business associates. The new attire are pressed - one T-shirt, two casual shirts, five dress shirts, undies, boxer-jammies. Two swim trunks even. A watch too. Spring cleaning - check (well, not quite complete but it'll do), haircut - check, cultural rituals - check.

I am always in a good frame of mind come Chinese New Year. I feel ready to take on the world. I look forward to what fate has in store. A new beginning. Fresh perspectives. Renewed hope. The year of the Rabbit will be a good one for me in all aspects of life. Optimistic I am. Enthusiastic I shall be.

The days leading up to Chinese New Year are always exciting ones. The anticipation, a reunion lunch and a reunion dinner this year with different sides of the family, celebratory meals lined up, cousins visiting, some rest and relaxation, and yes, I am still eligible for angpows. So much to look forward to.

Photo of peonies by my friend Han San, perfect for Chinese New Year.

Australia Day

2011-01-26T00:22:00.004+08:00

When you've lived in a country for a number of years, you have ties. Emotional and physical ties. I lived in Australia, Adelaide to be precise, for four years - one year of boarding school and three years at uni. After all these years, I still feel a bond. I have school friends whom I have reconnected with via Facebook. I have cousins in Adelaide and Melbourne, relatives in Sydney, good friends in Brisbane. Some clients even. To all of you, 'Happy Australia Day'!

I still remember taking my first Qantas flight to Adelaide (their ads are really engaging), my first tour of the city. I have fond memories of my year at Immanuel College. I have made some lifelong friends while at the Flinders University of South Australia.

I haven't visited in more than a decade but images of the Barossa Valley, Kangaroo Island and the like often come to mind. Once the Ringgit appreciates against the Australian Dollar, I'd very much like to head to Queensland or Western Australia for a holiday. There is still much to see and discover. And am happy I caught this on YouTube a couple of days back.

Photo of Year 12 boarding students at Immanuel College, Adelaide, Australia, courtesy of Thomas Brown.